Dating Advice from FLESH SIMULATOR: Dos and Don'ts for Finding a Partner
Summary:
This video from FLESH SIMULATOR offers comedic yet often direct dating advice for men. Key points include:
- Avoid self-deprecation: Don't constantly make self-deprecating jokes as it conveys insecurity and unattractiveness.
- Prioritize in-person interaction: Texting too much before meeting in person creates inaccurate mental models, leading to awkwardness.
- Don't date based on hobbies/politics: Shared interests like music or movies are better for friendships, and political alignment is a poor basis for a relationship, leading to misery.
- Build relationships as a "blank slate": Focus on compatible lifestyles and mutual attraction, as other aspects can be developed together.
- Date locally and in-person: Avoid long-distance relationships over Discord, especially if seeking a "normal, regular" partnership.
- Cultivate confidence over looks: While physical appearance matters, insecurity about looks (e.g., baldness) is more detrimental than actual physical traits.
- Leverage social proof: Having a partner can paradoxically increase attractiveness to others, as it signals social validation. The host frames his advice with personal, satirical anecdotes, including claims about his "Illuminati parents" and his partner.
Introduction and Host's Qualifications [0:00] [Image: 0:00]
- The host, Mr. Simulator, introduces the video as dating advice given on Valentine's Day, targeting an audience likely in need of such guidance. [0:00-0:09]
- He claims credibility for giving dating advice because he has been with his "girlfriend/wife" for almost ten years. [0:55-1:05]
- He humorously notes they can't technically marry due to her parents being in the Illuminati. [1:05-1:08]
- Mr. Simulator clarifies that he acquired his partner before achieving his current status as a "C-list internet celebrity" and making "hundreds of thousands of dollars," implying his advice comes from a place of relatability to his audience's current situation. [1:10-1:25]
- He briefly and sarcastically mentions checking his "$600 watch" while discussing his success. [1:37-1:43]
Things NOT to Do in Dating [3:51] [Image: 3:51]
- Avoid constant self-deprecating jokes. [4:09]
- Such jokes make you appear insecure, anticipating criticism, and attempting to preemptively defuse it.
- This behavior is perceived as insecurity and "bitch-made."
- Do not text more than you hang out in person, especially early on. [4:32]
- Relying heavily on texting leads to building inaccurate mental models of the other person.
- These distorted perceptions create awkwardness when interactions shift to real life.
- Prioritize getting to know someone through in-person interactions.
- Do not date someone based on shared tastes like music, movies, or hobbies. [4:57]
- These shared interests are insufficient to form a strong romantic relationship; they barely sustain a friendship.
- The host jokingly suggests such topics are better discussed with "a man," specifically "an autistic man." [5:11-5:17]
- Do not view a relationship as a "needle in a haystack" perfect match. [5:19]
- The idea of "a soulmate" as a singular, predestined person is dismissed. [5:49-5:54]
- A "soulmate" relationship is something actively created and built with a compatible partner, implying there are many potential compatible partners. [5:55-6:01]
- He makes a dark joke about not being able to replace a deceased partner with a "skin suit," further emphasizing that relationships are unique creations. [6:02-6:17]
Things TO Do in Dating [5:26]
- View a relationship as a "blank slate" or "fresh save file" to build with a compatible partner. [5:30]
- Focus on finding someone with compatible lifestyles and mutual attraction.
- Other aspects of a relationship can be developed and shared over time. [6:33-6:35]
- Do not pick a partner based on politics. [6:40]
- The host strongly advises against dating solely based on political alignment, calling it "the stupidest and worst thing." [6:43-6:46]
- He warns that such relationships resemble dating a coworker, leading to misery and arguments over trivial political details. [6:48-6:59]
- He ironically suggests that people ("chuds" and "libtards") should seek partners with opposing political views, claiming it can lead to stronger relationships and a "mellowing out" effect for both individuals. [7:16-7:27]
- Hang out in person often and early. [7:38]
- This is highlighted as the "number one most important thing."
- Avoid dating long-distance exclusively over platforms like Discord, especially if seeking a "real, normal, regular relationship" that involves cohabitation and family. [7:52-8:06]
- He shares a personal anecdote of meeting his "frightening evil Judeo-Hapa girlfriend/wife" through college radio due to their shared insomnia, leading them to be the only two available to hang out in the early hours. [8:26-8:49]
- Address insecurity about physical appearance. [9:04]
- It's likely that perceived unattractiveness is more about insecurity than actual physical flaws.
- Specific advice includes going on Accutane for acne. [9:09-9:10]
- Women's attraction is described as a "yes or no binary" based on confidence and interest, not superficial flaws like baldness. [9:44-9:58]
- He asserts that "women don't like when people are insecure," regardless of other traits. [11:13-11:16]
- Already have a girlfriend to get more women. [10:28]
- This is ironically presented as the "number one way to get a girlfriend." [10:28-10:33]
- Women are often more attracted to men who are already in relationships, viewing them as "socially proofed" and lacking "fundamental flaws." [10:35-10:58]
- He acknowledges this "biological lizard brain aspect" as ridiculous but too powerful to fight or deny. [11:08-11:12]